How Do You Do It All?

Learning what, how, and when to choose is perhaps the greatest challenge, but having well-established priorities helps. For me, missing family milestones, like birthdays and graduations, is non-negotiable. Being there to support a friend during a difficult time, or during a celebratory time, is extremely important to me as well. For everything else, I decide on a case-by-case basis, but I try to do it in a thoughtful way — because, let’s face it, we are not in Everything Everywhere All at Once.

Projecting that you can, indeed, do everything is a dangerous practice. Sure, everyone wants to feel like Wonder Woman. In fact, I used to rejoice in people comparing me to a superhero. But the truth is you are doing society, especially women, a disservice. Women who seem to be “doing it all” usually have a lot of help, be it economically, socially, emotionally, or professionally. I personally have a big support system, as both my family and my husband’s family are very involved in our lives and help us take care of our kids. During the years, I have had domestic help to keep up the house, an au pair to help me with the kids’ weekly schedule, and therapists to help me navigate emotionally difficult times — not to mention the number of things I am able to delegate at work with consultants and people from my team. I could not be doing everything that I do — heck, I could not even be writing this article — if I did not have that help!